Women and the challenges they face in marriages, which they can overcome with resilience and positivity.
By Abayomi Odunowo
Good morning women in marriage. Let’s talk about the stress and conflicts that often arise between you and your husband, as well as his family members, particularly his mother. Many women tend to blame their mother-in-law for all the problems in their marriage, but the truth is, most of the stress and conflicts you have with your husband and his family are not solely from your mother-in-law’s actions.
Most of these mother-in-laws are people who need you more than you need them. They are often looking for love, acceptance, and appreciation from their son’s wife. The problem is not necessarily with them, but with the attitude and behavior that you bring into the family. It’s important to understand that when you got married, you entered into a new family and it’s important to respect and value the members of that family, including your in-laws.
The trouble you may be experiencing with your husband could be rooted in the way you treat him and his family. Insulting your husband, disregarding his feelings, and lacking value in him can create tension and resentment in your marriage. Moreover, insulting his parents, whom you may never have fully understood or appreciated their experiences before you came into the picture, can further exacerbate the situation.
It’s important to realize that your words and actions towards your husband have a significant impact on the relationship and can ultimately lead to a breakdown in communication and respect. No man appreciates being insulted, disregarded, or devalued by his wife. Your husband does not feed on these negative behaviors, and he certainly does not need to feel disrespected in his own home.
If you continue to disrespect and devalue your husband, you may find yourself back to square one in your relationship. Insulting him will only create a larger divide between you, and ultimately, lead to a breakdown in your marriage. It’s crucial to remember that marriage is a partnership, and both parties need to respect and value each other for the relationship to thrive.
It’s essential to remember that you can be replaced in your husband’s life, either officially through divorce or unofficially through emotional detachment. Side hens are always waiting to take over territories, and if you continue to mistreat your husband and his family, you may find yourself replaced for the sake of total peace of mind for your husband.
It’s important to take a step back and reflect on your actions and how they may be contributing to the stress and conflicts in your marriage. Rather than blaming others, it’s important to look within and see how you can change your attitude and behavior to improve the relationship with your husband and his family.
Respecting your husband and his family is vital for your own sanity and the health of your marriage. Remember, marriage is a two-way street, and both partners need to show mutual respect and appreciation for each other to maintain a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
In conclusion, it’s essential to recognize that most of the stress and conflicts in your marriage are not solely from your mother-in-law, but may also be from your own actions and behavior towards your husband and his family. It’s crucial to respect and value your husband, and his family, for a harmonious and thriving marriage. Marriage is a partnership, and both partners need to show mutual respect and appreciation to maintain a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
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Otunba Abdulfalil Abayomi Odunowo
National Chairman AATSG
URL: www.aatsg.org.ng
Tel: +2349053535322
Email: nchairman@aatsg.org.ng
